It’s like a fashion magazine with photo shopped versions of artificial women in its pages; only there is no evil magazine, our girl friends are our enemies.
The friend with the perfect relationship- she has no problems, the guy is perfect, the man of her dreams, no they never have any problems, she only wishes you were this lucky. Some are more subtle, but if you hear closely, you can hear the insanity in her voice too, the total lack of honesty; the need to fool herself. Introducing - The lie of the perfect relationship.
Look at your grandparents- they’ve been together for 50 years or more. Do they say things were perfect? Does your grandmother say her husband is the epitome of perfection? If she is anything like mine she says the opposite. He is not perfect, neither is she. Real couples have problems, they have issues, and you probably need to choose many times in your lifetime if you want to stay together or leave. This is a real relationship and sadly I find that having a real relationship these days is apparently not good enough, just as having a real body is not.
Perfect relationship lies around me seem to be perpetuated by women, by supposed girlfriends, by colleagues. To me it seems like you are doing yourself and your friends a disservice by not sharing, sharing is good, sharing your troubles makes you realize you are not alone, it makes people respond in kind, you can see both sides of the issue; telling thoughtless lies, not so good. You feel guilty for lying; realize now you have to live up to these lies and feel even worse when you can’t. People around you now feel they have to tell the same lies for fear of being seen a lesser woman; same vicious circle follows. Single women feel they need to find these perfect guys who will make all their troubles go away. What a complete bunch of bullcrap women put themselves though, have you seen men do this? They don’t feel they have to tell their friends that their life is perfect they don’t feel the need to justify their need be with a person. Why do women? It is a hard thing to rebel against, this lie, when everyone around you is saying everything is perfect and you say it’s not; you are with a monster then aren’t you? Cause only that could make you say that it is not perfect, he must be beating you? What kind of low self esteem causes you to derive pleasure from an illusion; are we trying to fool ourselves or someone else?
2 comments:
No relationship is perfect. It is only people who are looking at a relationship from the outside who feel that it is perfect. All the women I have interacted with, openly share the imperfections of their relationship. I am not perfect. I can't expect my spouse to be perfect. But if I love him, I invest the time and effort to make the relationship work. Some days are good, some days are bad, some days are boring, some days are exciting. But that is life. A healthy relationship is one where both partners make the effort. Love surmounts all problems. Love helps us go the distance (and some days the going can be very tough). So don't worry. Keep smiling. And don't worry about those who pretend to have a perfect relationship. There is no such thing.
Perfect reationship or so called perfect relationships are scary... if there are 2 individuals in a relationship then there are bound to be different opinions etc... if there arent any, then one is compromising on their ownself or both the people involved are clones of one another... chill out... ur normal and so an imperfect relationship is also normal...
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